How do YOU deal with anger?
That's an honest question.
I was dropping my big kids off at school the other day, when I ran into another parent-friend of ours coming the other way. "How's it going?" I asked.
"Terrible," he said, face flat and eyes lost. "Things are not going well with mornings in our house. I think we need help. I don't know what to do."
We headed to a nearby coffeeshop and got into it. I heard his story, which I resonated deeply with: the high levels of stress and frustration that come with the everyday conflicts of parenting, the unintentional escalations, the feeling like there's no clear way forward.
In those moments, I can feel anger sweep up through me like mercury in a thermometer being thrown into a fire. A hot face, a dizzy head. A tightening. Where does it show up for you?
I don't have a familiar, lifelong pattern or habit or skill for dealing with anger. To be honest, until I become a parent, I really had no experience at all with true anger.
I can still recall a conversation with colleagues …
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